‘Yes, you love me because………….’
‘you don’t fart in bed like Dad does.’
I asked my boys tonight why they love me. I was prepared for the, ‘because you’re my mum,’ response. I was not prepared for the answer I got instead.
After clutching at my sides for quite some time and then regaining my composure we got back to the question that was still hanging in the air (luckily nothing else was in the air).
Responses from Me First were:
‘We do cool stuff together like go to the playground and skate park.’
‘You make yummy bikkies.’
‘When I hurt myself you kiss me and make it all better.’
‘I love your cuddles. They make me feel safe and happy.’
Answers from Me Too were a little less defined but included:
‘You make yummy lunch.’
‘You play trucks with me.’
‘You love me.’
So what is one to glean from all of this? From a 5 and 2 y.old’s perspectives it seems that I am meeting their needs. We break bread together, not just biscuits. We play, laugh and learn together. They see love and they feel love. Is there anything else children of this age need? Perhaps I’m oversimplifying life but of bigger concern than that would be overcomplicating.
I love my kids. They’re unique and spirited children. They’ve got scars and bumps and are rarely scar-free. Their enthusiasm is contagious even if their energy is not. They put life in my years and grey hairs on my head. They amaze me, irritate me and leave me speechless. They give the best leg hugs and smooches in the business.
There’s nothing else I need from them. Do they need anything else from me?
What do your kids love about you? Perhaps ask them and see what they say. Witty, soppy and left-of-field are all valued here.
I love you just because.
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